There are an entire array of excuses and statements of
denial that addicts tell themselves. And a person can go on and on with making
excuses without once thinking about calling for help. It might be a way to stay
safe in the world that a person has created. That world might be unhealthy and
dysfunctional but the substance use seems to work. The drinking and drug use
seems to fit into their lives in such a way that they might feel like not only
want the substance use, they need it.
Of course, when a person believes that they need something,
they are more apt to deny the fact that they need to stop their relationship
with it. They are more likely to deny the fact that what they’re doing is
wrong, unhealthy, or dangerous. Instead, the excuses continue despite what
friends and family are saying. In fact, you might recognize the following
common excuses to avoid addiction treatment in yourself or someone you know.
I
can’t be social without this. Alcohol and drugs are
sometimes called a social lubricant. It allows them to open up and feel more
comfortable with themselves and others. And if a person’s job depends upon
business relationships and interaction with others, then there might be a
greater dependence upon substances to earn an income. Although the need to use
for social interaction might feel true to someone with an addiction,
ultimately, this is an excuse for avoiding the fact that one’s substance use is
a problem.
I
can’t afford treatment. This is also another deterrent to
treatment. And again, someone who doesn’t have the money might feel that, in
fact, this is what’s keeping them from getting help. However, the truth is that
there are many options available. Between government health options, social
service agencies, and free clinics, there is always at least some option that
can get one started on getting help. And this includes the thousands of free
12-step meetings that take place around the country.
I
can stop using or drinking whenever I want. This is another way of
saying, “I’ve got this under control”.
It’s a form of denial pointing to the belief that there isn’t a problem
and everything is fine.
No
one is going to be able to help me get out of this. Some
people believe that any kind of help is pointless. Treatment has no value and
isn’t going to really create change. And others who use this excuse might feel
that they are way beyond denial and have moved into despair. Nothing, at this
point, is going to help them get out of the darkness they’re in. Yet, this too
is an excuse, possibly to avoid the change that might come with treatment.
My
drinking isn’t as bad as it looks. When compared to the woman
who lost her job because of drinking or the guy who lost his children because
of his meth use, one person’s drinking might seem like not a problem. This sort of comparing is another way of
avoiding the fact that one’s substance use is problematic.
These are some common excuses for avoiding treatment. If you
or someone you know is communicating one or more of these statements, you
should know that addiction is a progressive disease and can get worse over
time. Contact a mental health provider for immediate support.
